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destiny
Joined: 23 Jul 2006
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 Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 7:55 pm Post subject: Regret... or Learning Experience? |
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| Those past things that weave into our "experience".... do you regret the bad stuff happening, or do you view it as a learning experience and have peace with it? |
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Dolly
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| Posted: Tue Jul 25, 2006 4:58 am Post subject: |
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I don't do regret...or at least don't like to.
A couple of things I wish I could have changed, but hopefully I've learned from them and will do better next time.
I can't understand people who cling onto back experiences that happened a long time ago. It's bad enough it messing your life up at the time without letting it mess up things in the present. |
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destiny
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| Posted: Tue Jul 25, 2006 2:13 pm Post subject: |
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Very true. I try not to do regret either. If I feel it starting, I try to remind myself that I have no idea what it all may have turned out like if the "regretted" thing had been different. I can usually talk myself out of it pretty fast because wasting time on regret really isn't too smart since I couldn't go back and change anything now anyhow.  |
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Dolly
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| Posted: Tue Jul 25, 2006 3:44 pm Post subject: |
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It's very true.
You could wish you'd done things a different way, but that may have turned out even worse.
I don't even regret 20 years with my ex, despite things turning nasty in the end.
I could have been with somebody else who'd turned out to be an axe murderer. |
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destiny
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| Posted: Wed Jul 26, 2006 12:29 pm Post subject: |
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That's the way I try to think, too, Dolly. Too many people are prone to complain about "mistakes" they made and I always try to think of what *might* have happened if another decision had been made. Maybe that's one of the definitions of personal peace. Or... well maybe I just think too much.  |
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schatzi
Joined: 21 Oct 2006
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| Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 4:13 pm Post subject: |
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| I don?t regret it! It leads me to what I should supposed to do the next time around. |
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kdarrell
Joined: 25 Jul 2006
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Thu Oct 26, 2006 11:27 am Post subject: |
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| I don't regret it at all. I believe everything happens for a reason and all our past experiences make us who we are today. To change the past, would change the present. |
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bangfor
Joined: 20 Oct 2006
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| Posted: Sun Oct 29, 2006 4:03 pm Post subject: Bad Memory |
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| Bad memory could be replaced with new experience to the point where there might not be enough time to grill oneself over missed opportunities or relationships that had gone sour for no good reason at all. |
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destiny
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| Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 12:11 am Post subject: Re: Bad Memory |
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| bangfor wrote: | | Bad memory could be replaced with new experience to the point where there might not be enough time to grill oneself over missed opportunities or relationships that had gone sour for no good reason at all. |
I believe there's always a reason relationships go sour... maybe we don't
always figure out what the reason was, though. |
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aima123
Joined: 24 Oct 2006
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| Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 3:19 am Post subject: |
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| I agree that everything happens due to different reasons. Relationship going sour makes you challenge to make it sweet for the second time around. |
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schatzi
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| Posted: Mon Nov 06, 2006 9:23 am Post subject: |
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| Do you think it would be sweeter the second time around?How about if you got worser than the first? |
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bangfor
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| Posted: Fri Nov 24, 2006 12:29 am Post subject: We would |
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| We would given the time and when there is a next time that'll be a good lesson learned. |
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aima123
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| Posted: Sat Nov 25, 2006 6:40 am Post subject: |
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| I think bad encountered for the first time makes you learned for having it on the second time. It's already your fault in making the same painful instances twice. |
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destiny
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| Posted: Sun Nov 26, 2006 7:07 pm Post subject: |
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| aima123 wrote: | | I think bad encountered for the first time makes you learned for having it on the second time. It's already your fault in making the same painful instances twice. |
I think that humans should come with some kind of guarantee that one mistake would assure that they'd never make the same one again... but it doesn't work that way and you're right, people often end up in another relationship just as bad or sometimes maybe even worse. |
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ladykuri
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No regrets man, no regrets! I've done a lot of things that can only be described as incredibly stupid and/or dangerous, but without those things I wouldn't be who I am today. And I like who I am today, so that would suck.
Bad relationships, bad religion, bad nights in the bottle......all of those things are key in the mosaic of my life, and while they weren't fun when I was living them, where I would be without them is unlikely to be anywhere I'd want to be.
“Do not anxiously hope for that which is not yet come; do not vainly regret what is already past”- Chinese proverb |
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